You Get To Have A “BOTH” Life

Original Post: Shamina Taylor Facebook

You can’t have both.

You have to choose.

It’s one OR the other.

I was having a discussion with someone over the weekend and they said I would rather be wealthy, have experiences in life, and not buy things.


You don’t want both.

That is your prerogative.

Not me. I want ALL of it.

I see posts all the time talking about this.

Where people proclaim, I would rather spend my money enjoying life. Having vacations then things.

It’s like there is a belief if you choose one you cannot have the other. And if you wanted the “things” it would make you a bad person or greedy.

I want BOTH.

I know I can have both, so I want both.

Both are available.

If you believe you can only have one, then yes there is a painful choice to be made.

Whatever we assign meaning to is what we get.

I personally don’t feel we have to choose.

I can have BOTH.

I believe it is both.

Both is expansive, which means there are no limits.

OR mentality = You can’t have both. So you need to choose.

NOW, I know I can have whatever it is I desire.

So I don’t need to choose.

So many are taught at a young age, pick one. You only get one little Susie, don’t be greedy.

And as a child, you want both.

But you are taught very early this isn’t a “both” life.


Because we don’t want them to be entitled or think life can come easy.

*Insert struggle mentality*

It’s to keep them humble so they know in order to be successful they need to work hard REALLY HARD.


The majority of the women who I mentor don’t have the expansiveness of both even though they are the most hardworking women you will ever meet (p.s. handwork doesn’t equally wealthy).

In fact, they limit themselves so much that what they do is NEVER enough.

So they never know how expansive they can be, or life can be. Because they resort back to the OR mentality, not both.

Their mindset is…

Only if I need it, only if it is necessary.

Rarely just because they desire it.

They don’t feel deserving of both.

And I know some will justify when they don’t want both and say….

‘It just doesn’t excite me.’


Or are you just limiting yourself justifying why you are settling for OR.

I am here to tell you….

You can have both if you choose both.


Would You Wear A 61-Carat Ring?

Original Post: Shamina Taylor Facebook

This guy made a post about how he was having dinner with his friend who drove a Bugatti.

And while they were at dinner they were eyeing this guy’s watch while he was dining with his wife.

The wife was wearing a 61-carat canary 80 million dollar diamond ring they bought from a museum and they had been married for 30 years.

I read this and I naturally went and googled a 61-carat ring. I mean you probably will too lol.

My friend owned a 6-carat rock the size of my eyeball so I couldn’t imagine what a 61-carat ring would look like.

Oh and the guy they were looking at apparently owned t-shirt factories in Bangladesh. Let’s assume the entire story is true.

What was interesting about it was the comments…..many were very supportive…then the ones who weren’t.

It is always so interesting to see how people react toward another’s wealth. What judgments they make tell me so much about their money mindset.

One commenter said (I am paraphrasing), I would never want to be married to a woman who felt it was okay to wear an 80 million dollar ring. That money could go to charity and change the world.

It could.

He assumed we had to throw the whole wife away because she wore a ring with a certain value.

I mean if it was 100k would we still throw her away?


I mean you’re entitled to it.

No one is stopping judgment.

Don’t try to.

But I can guarantee you this man’s thinking is limiting what is truly available for him to receive in this lifetime.

Another guy said (I am paraphrasing again), I bet he pays his employees $5 an hour and they work in sweat factories, why doesn’t he pay his people better with that money? He made up a whole scenario and story in minutes.

He might. I don’t know.

How many times have we done that?

Based upon our judgments.

We ASSUME things because we think our way is the right and only way.

Then this big long story we’ve made up gets attached very quickly to who people are from their success or what they have.

MONEY will bring out everything that is hiding deep in you about what you feel about YOURSELF.

Want to know where your money issues are, check in with your judgments.

What was your reaction when you read someone owned an 80 million dollar ring and was wearing it?

You know that saying when we judge others, we are actually judging ourselves.

Next time you see yourself judging how other people spend their money, invest their money, spend their money, make their money….including yourself.

STOP and ask yourself why am I so invested in how and why people are using their money.

What does this have anything to do with me?

It’s not taking away from you, is it?

I mean it might feel like it if you don’t live in abundance.

I mean they are printing the paper right this second.

It isn’t running out.

Whatever we assign meaning to becomes our reality.

I got EXPANDED with the idea of a 61-carat rock. I mean she can miss arm day at the gym with that rock.

Others let their limited mindset show, they saw what they DIDN’T have, what wasn’t available to them.

When your default is lack, you will ALWAYS judge everything.

Money doesn’t buy happiness.

But, I am here for the human experience and if it involves experiencing whatever I desire, I am going to experience it as bougie and fancy as I want to.

Because I can. How bout you?

Want to be an Influencer? What is holding you back? What steps can you take to show up!

Want to be an influencer? You need to tap into that confidence?

Knowing you want to be successful because you have a mission or goal isn’t enough anymore. You need to take action.

If you don’t do something with that gift then it’s just ‘I could have been this.’ ‘I could have done that.’ But ‘I didn’t.’ Instead it will be, I watched every one else do it but me!

You want to influence the masses, teach them about your gifts? Purpose work? Create content to sell to them? Well it’s going to take digging into that confidence.

The ones that you see are doing it may not be the most gifted but they are the most confident in themselves, in their beliefs and they show up!

And because they show up daily with their messaging and selling they have become the most influential leaders. The go to people.

You can’t sell any one anything if they don’t believe you already believe in yourself. And if you’re hiding. Well that’s near impossible to influence right?

Confidence comes from a deep belief and love for yourself. It comes from focusing on you and what you came here to do.

It comes from not needing any outside validation or approval to say hey you’re good enough. Because you just know you are. So you act. You act now. Not tomorrow.

You learn to shut out any exterior noise that tells you, you’re not good enough or not worthy enough. Or crazy to pursue this dream. Because you know ‘I’m the shit.’ No one is stopping me!

Because you’ve had that talk with fear. You told fear there’s no room here for both of you. You can’t survive here. You’ve decided you’re only available for success, influencing, winning and becoming wealthy AF!

When you get there baby, that’s the full flow. Then there’s no turning off that magic!

Everyday you get lost ask ‘I’m I choosing myself or my bullshit story why I can’t?’ Because you can’t have both. So time to get out of your own way and show up like the boss you know you are ?

Allow yourself to feel it all.

Feeling every emotion as it comes will lead you to your success.

What if we decided our feelings meant something. They weren’t something to be ashamed over. It wasn’t a weakness. But it was real. Things we felt deep in our souls.

What if it was ok to be mess. To be in pain and to feel it. Let it pass through us instead of pretending we didn’t feel and letting the pain stay stuck within us. What if it wasn’t all considered a weakness? But a strength to feel the discomfort.

Why are we acting so tough?

What good does that do for us?

It only protects our ego. Because it doesn’t nurture our hearts and souls. It keeps us stuck. In a battle we aren’t winning.

We are so afraid to love or show love and that’s what we are made of, pure love. And it’s ironic. As much as we try to fight what we feel with our minds and our preconceived ideas of what must be, we end up feeling anyway. Even if we think we have it under control we don’t.

Even if we try to halt those emotions. They are still in play. Showing up in places we didn’t choose. Because everything we try to ignore or hide will always have a way of manifesting in some form with or without our knowing.

The feeling is the awareness and it is so crucial to us not letting the past affect us or our hold us back from what we truly know and want to do in this life.

So what if we just allowed ourselves to feel….anything we need to because it’s what we need to feel.

If it’s love. Feel it. It will heal you. Make you happy. It won’t hurt you. An emotion so pure as that, is what we live for.

If it’s sadness and pain. Feel it. Let it pass. So you can empower yourself from the past and make room for more love to enter you❤️😘