Original Post: Shamina Taylor Facebook
I remember one thing that stuck with me from the one and only UPW Tony Robbins event I attended back in 2016, he said one of the key pillars to success is delegation.
Knowing how to do this can change the success and longevity of your business.
I am here to say he is right.
The women I mentor don’t always have the easiest time finding their dream support team.
They have a hard time trusting the support will always be there. So they are very careful how much they let them help or how much they will let themselves depend on that help for fear it could up and leave.
They are sometimes convinced, good help is hard to find…
I can’t find the right help.
I can’t trust people to help me.
Or why hire help?
When I can do it faster myself.
One issue with highly successful women I mentor is they think they are superwoman and yes in many ways they are.
But they have a hard time letting go and trusting people will be there for them. There is also a lack mindset on spending money on support too (this is for another post).
They end up having:
High team turnovers.
Frustration and resentment because they aren’t supported.
Exhausted from doing WAY too much in their business because it is easier and faster (according to them).
They like things their way.
They like to control everything.
They are perfectionists and people don’t ever do it like them.
For the first year of my business, I did have a hard time letting someone in and letting myself receive support. It was so foreign to me.
I didn’t understand why until I did.
It honestly never felt safe to receive help, even when I was PAYING FOR IT. I had an abandonment wound show up there. And a feminine wound self sacrificing myself all the time and not knowing it was safe to receive help.
Then when I got clear what kind of help I needed, I found my unicorn team member and I remember I subconsciously was always secretly waiting for her to leave. It was still scary!
So I kept paying her more. I didn’t also want to give her too much to do. Every time she would reassure me she loved supporting me and wasn’t going anywhere.
I didn’t know what it felt like to fully be supported because to be honest I had been in my wounded masculine doing bad all by myself everywhere in my life. And as a single mama you are wearing every single hat.
Letting my guard down and letting someone help me was one of the biggest game changers for me growing as a leader and business owner.
I finally felt safe to really be supported and receive help. And it changed how I showed up.
I learned to delegate. Like a boss!
And started hiring more aligned team members.
Then I also knew when to let people go. Because another thing we do is keep misaligned people in our company for way too long because of that need to struggle through things and that abandonment wound (insert familiar toxic cycles we know and endure).
You get to be supported fully.
You get to find your unicorn loyal team members who are there to support you and your mission and vision.
Without support you cannot go very far.
With a team you can do so much.
Don’t limit yourself.
You get to delegate.
You get to be supported.
You have a big impact to make!
This also allows you to enjoy that time and location freedom. Knowing your business is taken care of when you’re gone.
And caveat you don’t need a huge team (because we want a profit driven business too). Find a team who will love your mission as much as you do. Ones who care deeply for the cause.