Original Post: Shamina Taylor Facebook
You can’t have both.
You have to choose.
It’s one OR the other.
I was having a discussion with someone over the weekend and they said I would rather be wealthy, have experiences in life, and not buy things.
You don’t want both.
That is your prerogative.
Not me. I want ALL of it.
I see posts all the time talking about this.
Where people proclaim, I would rather spend my money enjoying life. Having vacations then things.
It’s like there is a belief if you choose one you cannot have the other. And if you wanted the “things” it would make you a bad person or greedy.
I want BOTH.
I know I can have both, so I want both.
Both are available.
If you believe you can only have one, then yes there is a painful choice to be made.
Whatever we assign meaning to is what we get.
I personally don’t feel we have to choose.
I can have BOTH.
I believe it is both.
Both is expansive, which means there are no limits.
OR mentality = You can’t have both. So you need to choose.
NOW, I know I can have whatever it is I desire.
So I don’t need to choose.
So many are taught at a young age, pick one. You only get one little Susie, don’t be greedy.
And as a child, you want both.
But you are taught very early this isn’t a “both” life.
Because we don’t want them to be entitled or think life can come easy.
*Insert struggle mentality*
It’s to keep them humble so they know in order to be successful they need to work hard REALLY HARD.
The majority of the women who I mentor don’t have the expansiveness of both even though they are the most hardworking women you will ever meet (p.s. handwork doesn’t equally wealthy).
In fact, they limit themselves so much that what they do is NEVER enough.
So they never know how expansive they can be, or life can be. Because they resort back to the OR mentality, not both.
Their mindset is…
Only if I need it, only if it is necessary.
Rarely just because they desire it.
They don’t feel deserving of both.
And I know some will justify when they don’t want both and say….
‘It just doesn’t excite me.’
Or are you just limiting yourself justifying why you are settling for OR.
I am here to tell you….
You can have both if you choose both.
MORE IS COMING!